2020 is bringing about some serious emotional challenges. And while I am optimistic about life and my growth through these challenges, it is not alway easy to Step Into Certainty. Here are three things we can do to increase our capacity for resiliency.

1.  Accept challenges as opportunities to expand.

We know challenges can help us grow if we choose to see them that way. In the personal trainer world, I often need to remind my clients of this. This includes our emotional, mental and spiritual side as well. When we can not embrace challenges as way to expand, we remain stuck with low frequency vibrations and tunnel vision, keeping our confidence and resilience low.

To embrace a challenge with the intention to expand from it, would mean that you look for the learning or the new perspective. You do the uncomfortable thing and feel the new uncomfortable feeling. You do not let it bring you down but rather choose excitement for how you will come out on the other side. Because when you do new things with an open mind, or feel uncomfortable feelings without judgement, you will spiritually change as a person. This is the expansion you will experience. Try it.

2. Stay committed to your mission as a human being.

Sometimes when we face things that are hard, we want to take the easy way out – the path of least resistance. We are short with our kids, partner, and strangers. We may fall short at work or with our own self care routine. Consciously staying committed to your mission will only expand your resilience to take on more. When we communicate to the Universe that we can’t handle it, we block ourselves from receiving more of what we want. Not as a punishment but because we are not acting as a vibrational match for what we want. So elevate your consciousness and stay committed to your role as best you can. The self care may have to take a front seat more often but for shorter periods of time, like little refuels to keep your reserves high, but it’s all good. You’ll find that as you expand, you’re allowing more of the goodness to flow in also.

3. Only focus on what you can control

If you’re like me, you like to control things – something I am always working, my inner Phoebe Buffet versus my inner Monica Geller. Trying to control things outside of ourselves is wasting a lot of energy that could be used for better, like putting that energy toward choosing to embrace the uncomfortable feelings of releasing control and focusing on controlling yourself – this now accomplished number 1. See what I did there?

But seriously, releasing control of things outside of you will increase your inner peace and save your energy, while supporting you in becoming more resilient. Over the next three weeks, put one of these into practice each week and see what happens for you. Be conscious and reflective about it and really feel your resilience expand.