Last week I was inspired to do an insta story on 2 conflicting concepts I see on my social media feed.
Since those stories are only up for 24 hours, if you missed it, you can catch it here.
Perhaps you’re familiar with it too.
Story A: accepting yourself for who you are and where you’re at and loving yourself for all of it: Self love and acceptance – a great thing our society needs help with.
Verses:
Story B: pushing yourself to be better and grow to evolve to a higher version of yourself. This is more of making shit happen for yourself and working to become better.
I even saw a woman post that she wasn’t going to make resolutions for her self this year in support of story A.
This got me thinking about the messages we send to each other through social media and how they can be interpreted.
I think both of these stories are fantastic to preach, however, I think both can be taken to an unhealthy extreme and so I’d like to bring into it the idea of consciousness.
When you read things talking about loving yourself and accepting yourself, do you internalize that as, I don’t need to change, I can stay where I am and be fine?
When you read things preaching about “being better”, pushing yourself, “no excuses”, “just do it” mentality and it inspires you to take action, is your consciousness coming from a place of lack? Meaning, do you not feel you’re enough as you are?
I think that internalizing these opposing concepts in either of these ways can be harmful and as someone who does preach these messages, I want to be clear on the delicate balance of the two in hopes of having you reflect on your consciousness and how that might be effecting you.
Choosing to take on a challenge to grow and become better, or stronger but coming from the place of lack because you do not think you’re enough as your are can be harmful and I do not advise you to embark on a lifestyle transformation until you love and accept yourself for who you are first.
When you come from the place of love for yourself, you will not only make your results sustainable,but also your journey or transformation more enjoyable. In other words, exercise and eat right because you love yourself and value your mind and body– not because you don’t like yourself as you are.
On the contrary, if you tell yourself that you love yourself and accept yourself for who you are and you just want to stay where you’re at, then you’re staying in the harbor where it’s safe and not growing and evolving as a person, I would challenge you to ask yourself if you’re feeling fulfilled – not happy, but fulfilled – and are you staying there for fear of leaving the comforts of safety?
Finding your own delicate balance between the two is only something you can do. Much of this is based off of where we are at in our life and what we are ready to take on. As an entrepreneur with a passion for self growth, health and wellness, I encourage you to always be working to evolve into awesomeness with little pauses to unplug and reflect along the way.